Watching Someone You Love Slip Away
There are many disease in this world that effect us and many that take the lives of those we love and care about. I recently got a first hand look at Dementia.
When it happens to someone in your family it is allot harder to understand and wrap your mind around it.
My dad was recently diagnosed with Dementia and he has begun to go through many changes that effect not only him, but all of us that love him.
As we have researched this disease, we have come to be more understanding about his confusion, anger and sometimes moments of clarity that make you feel like things will get better.
My dad, will be 84 this July and my parents will celebrate their 54th Wedding Anniversary this April 4th.
For the last year or so I have noticed a steady change in him and his memory.
He is confused and disoriented most days and will ramble about things in no particular order.
I think the hardest part of watching him go through this is that my dad has always been bigger than life, like most dads are to their children.
He has always been so strong and self reliant.
In my conversations with him, he has told me that he is frustrated about what is happening because he is not in control and that he can’t remember the simple things.
He can remember things that happened sixty years ago like it was yesterday, but things that happened yesterday or even earlier in the morning that same day he can’t remember.
There is no cure at this time for Dementia, there are medicines that they claim can help to manage it, but those have side effects too and in my dad’s case caused him to not be hungry therefore he lost weight and is even more frail than ever.
I have come to the conclusion that life hands you things to make you stronger and how you deal with the situation will tell allot about you and who you are.
I will spend as much time with my father as I can while we can.
We will be patient on his bad days and enjoy the good days.
My parents will be here with us on their Anniversary for doctors appointments, so my brother, sister and myself and our families will make a big dinner for them and celebrate, we will laugh, cry and just be together.
Has anyone in your life been through this?